15 signs that you should not get divorced
Probably, your marriage is stronger, than you think.
It seems to you that family life flies to all devils? Stop, look narrowly. Lawyers say that there are signals which characterize a strong relationship, despite the seeming fragility.
1. Communicate with each other
Relationship in which both partners are able and want to communicate with each other, find for this purpose time even if are very busy, doomed to success. Couple in marriage first of all has to have an opportunity to communicate with each other. It can look differently and includes even the moments of signing of the marriage contract and questions connected with finance. If there is a mutual understanding, it is sign of healthy marriage. Communication is the most important in family.
2. Support passion
Love helps people to endure both good, and bad times. Tenderness and caress are important for couple. If partners hold hands, kiss each other, it is sign of a healthy relationship.
3. Look for a compromise
Ability to find golden mean when you do not want something, is a good sign. If the woman wants to watch the movie Bridget Jones’s Diary, and the man prefers action movies, but at the same time both quietly find out how to make so that another felt at the same time well, is a fine indicator of strong marriage.
4. You see obvious advantages of your marriage
In marriage there is a set of advantages which do not want to be missed at a divorce at all. And it supports family life too. For example, after the divorce the former spouse cannot apply for preferential VHI. Sounds cynically, but works. Marriage as institute initially was constructed on the need to survive in common. There are social advantages, health and legal benefits.
5. Try something brand new together
If marriage is fascinating, fresh and filled with events, you, most likely, do not want to leave it. You plan something, try together new things, anticipate and create new memoirs. And it reminds that nervousness when you just began to meet and opened about each other something brand new.
The available common features, for example, similar sense of humor, help a relationship to remain strong. Do both of you laugh at identical things? That’s wonderful. The smile, laughter reduces stress and concern, create positive associations with another person.
7. Each of you has own interests
Certainly, something the general is always useful for marriage. But also, own interests and hobbies also have to take place in your relationship – it allows the person to remain the integral personality. However also that the partner supported your interests is important, and it is even best – took part in them.
8. Unconditionally trust each other
If partners still trust each other, divide with each other hearts, money, children, a divorce to your future does not threaten. Without trust there is no relationship. Otherwise marriage is doomed.
9. Respect each other
Strong marriage is based on the base of communication, trust and respect. If there is a mutual respect, then not always at emergence of problems a marriage is dissolved. And here loss of respect is already a signal of the end. Even if during the heated arguments both spouses support valid tone, that is great hope to keep family. However, if your marriage lacks respect, then you can work in this direction, it is quite remediable.
10. You are ready to solve problems
It is important to remember that any union is not perfect. Therefore, it is important to discuss difficult questions which will define whether you need to keep together. Chances of a divorce considerably decrease if both spouses came to understanding that to be angry, long, apologize – it is normal. And both spouses recognized that they want to make marriage successful, and understand that it demands time, determination and persistent work.
11. There is a deep communication
And she can save marriage. Lawyers say what even on the first consultation can be understood that for many years between spouses there was a communication. And if to study these powerful connections in couple, then it is possible to save family.
12. Your marriage is a priority
If both spouses support this statement, then the divorce is less probable. But it has to be the conscious decision – a priority of a relationship over all the rest.
13. You married not too young
The age can be risk factor. If couple marries at early age (up to 25 years), that is good chances that by 40−45 years of the spouse will get bored, will move away from each other and in their heads the thought of a divorce will appear. They will think that now they still have chances to create the future with other partner, and not to wait up to 60−70 years when already is late.
14. You have identical financial purposes
Money is one of the essential causes of a divorce. Therefore, be convinced that you and your partner have identical values concerning money. It can be a key to maintenance of your relationship.
15. Both of you are rather healthy
Health, both physical, and mental, can be a factor of the fact that one of partners will decide to leave. Lawyers say that they, as a rule, if one or both parties have mental disorders, differences of mood, including abuse psychoactive substances, then it becomes more difficult to overcome tension in such marriage and often everything comes to an end with a divorce.